What is Closing the Bones?
I recently spent the day on a very special workshop with a group of birth workers and doulas learning and receiving this beautiful therapy.
A deeply nurturing and relaxing experience, Closing the Bones, also known as Mother Wrapping, and to me a gorgeous restorative and loving feeling that every woman should experience.
There is something so deeply relaxing about being rocked, masssaged and swaddled! The origin of Closing the Bones has deep roots in honouring life cycles and is especially common in many cultures' similarity for celebrating and looking after a New Mother.
I say let's bring back this forgotten tradition!
Closing the Bones is however for every woman! For new mums it helps to relax the hips and offer relaxation, a sense of being cared for and crucial time out, honouring the transition she has made into into Motherhood. It can be the alternative to a usual massage or relaxing guided relaxation can be incorporated to support or honour any experience, weather it be Menarche and entering Womanhood, after a heartache or traumatic time, or the end of menstruating years.
Closing the Bones is something that nourishes and restores you.
They say it takes a village to raise a child, well Closing the Bones is a beautiful example of the togetherness that many cultures and traditions still hold for special and life changing moments, such as giving birth and becoming a Mother. Traditions that we have sadly let go of and lost over time. It used to be that pregnant women and New Mums were celebrated and the community would come together to share wisdom and experiences, to be healed and supported. Traditions that honour the amazing-ness of giving birth and becoming a New Mum!
These are traditions that 'Mother the Mother', when she needs it the most. And that feeling is at the core of what Closing the Bones is all about, and it's the reason I want to share it for more women to experience.
My training for the Closing the Bones with Developing Doula's, and shared with a small circle of women. Based on their teachings by Rocio Alarcon, an inspirational Ecuadorian woman trained in traditional midwifery.
Why every New Mum should receive Closing the Bones...
As we know during pregnancy and birth the hips widen, yes this is natural occurrence and one of many amazing aspects that a woman's body creates to carry and birth a child, but when the hips are and remain open it can create lower back issues and pelvic instability. The 'Closing' of hips helps to release tension held in the body after what has often been a very open and vulnerable time on a physical and emotional and energetic level. Inviting a release that can be held and stored from pregnancy, birth and motherhood. Traditionally hours after giving birth women would receive Closing the Bones and it would be repeated 5 or 6 times during the first 40 days postpartum. I advise as soon as you are feeling comfortable you can receive it. If a cesarean birth once the scar has healed (a postnatal nurturing massage in the meanwhile would be perfect).
That whole 'Can't pour from an empty cup', well that could not be closer to the truth when.
Closing the Bones as we know is particularly amazing for the postpartum period, a time that certainly requires all of the love, nurture and surrender too.
What Can you Expect?
Upon contacting me to have a chat and discuss your Closing the Bones Ceremony, if there is something in particular you wish to let go of or gain from the experience, we can also focus on that.
If you want to share your birth story, weather it has been 4 weeks or 14 years I will hold the space for you.
You are welcome to share your story, whatever that is, and if you want to relax and take in experience without discussing anything beforehand, this is also OK!
Closing the Bones can take place in the comfort of your home, so that you can basque in the lovely state of relaxation that we create afterwards.
I bring everything that we need with me! Cushions, blankets, flower petals, my Rebozo scarf and anything else to create a beautiful space for you with intention, love and candles too (there just has to be candles!).
A Rebozo is a traditional Mexican shawl that can be used in pregnancy and labour to relax tight ligaments in the belly, it can be used for baby wearing and it is what we traditionally use to gently rock, relax and 'shimmy' the hips to bring deep release and relaxation of the pelvis and lower back.
I begin to massage the lower back, hips and belly with a gorgeous women's oil and use the Rebozo tecnique to gently release tension in the hips and lower back. We then wrap the Rebozo and light scarves around the hips and other main points throughout the body.
This. Feels. Divine. There is just something about being 'cocooned' and held. It allows the body to deeply relax and the mind to just let go.
I then continue to massage over your head, neck and shoulder and you can continue to drift into a state of bliss.
If you would like to receive this Closing the Bones, at any stage of your life, I'd love to hear from you.
Contact me on 07832 147883.
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